Modern liberal psychological theory.

I am starting to wonder about the entire 'abuse' community:

Youtube: Psychology with Dr Ana: Dangerous Red Fags to NEVER Ignore in a person. 18th of September 2025.

https://youtu.be/HEsB2m_oi_Q?si=NzhPmVhTbHT_ieT_

I think this woman would consider someone like me a red flag. But what I think is actually happening here, is that these guidelines she gives are natural results of liberals forming an 'in' group and classifying everyone else outside it as "problematic".

The red flags she talks about: Self Victimized Rumination. Inability to take responsibility. Projective Identification of shame. Threats/ Vindictiveness. 

About two thirds of the way through this video the girl mentions that she thinks it's funny that Putin was falsely cast, as, what she considers a victim; because someone said that he had to go into Ukraine because Ukraine was planning on joining NATO. She thought this was funny and obviously not at all correct. 

It offers a very basic insight into her perspective. The mainstream viewpoint is probably mostly correct to this woman. Things like climate change, DEI and mass immigration are all completely fine and anyone that says otherwise is racist. Any deeper geopolitical analysis isn't really relevant. Any complexity in the overall story. It's just that someone is obviously the aggressor so they are the "bad" guy. 

Which is roughly I think the story that she would have been told about me in various places I have worked. I have been thinking about it a bit more recently. My first real job was in a supermarket where I worked for four years. During that time all the young people my age socialised with each other and I was strategically excluded. I was excessively positive and tried very hard to get on with them. This happened additionally with a close friend and a social group. Then a few years later in an office job. Where an office responded in the same way. Any new person I interacted with would stop talking to me. Like, not even say hello. 

Because of this attitude I have still not been to a bar with a mixed gender group. Not heard what women talk about and their perspectives and such. Now, I am not old, but I am not in my twenties, and the time has probably passed for those sorts of experiences.  

The women at these jobs have been women like the one in the video. Uniformly left wing. And if you think carefully about all her red flags here. They are all kind of subjective, and could be made to label any particular person you didn't like and had come on hard times. "Self victimisation". Are these the victims of the policies she supports? Guys who can't get jobs because of DEI and that she would not approve of their reason for feeling victimised? The same thing with threats and vindictiveness. When someone has been bullied they might want to say to others that if the behaviour continues there will be a concrete consequence.

The projection one is that people make other people feel like they do on the deep level... How do you know what people are feeling on the 'deep level'? I imagine there is some mind reading here and it is simply a very generalised label that can be applied to someone with right wing beliefs; or that is inconvenient to the liberal hive mind for some other reason.  

I have said this before. But the problem I think with women is when they refuse to listen to deeper explanations of why things are the way they are. When they take the moral highground. So in the end rather than going too and fro with their seemingly infinite energy in that regard, you simply take the role of the bad guy. 

This is the reason I think for a lot of the complaints about narcissism. The women all go for the guys at the top, who don't have the time for them. So they get incredibly angry that the guys they want won't act the way they want them to. (And they are calling the GUY the narcissist!) This is often when the agreement of the relationship was clearly stated short term, but the woman decided it should be something else. 

Women often sleep with the "narcissists". Then convert to Christianity and spend the rest of their lives shaming the guys at the bottom, the ones that don't get women, for having sexual desires (because they are angry at the guys at the top!). The entire female gender it seems with it's fanatical shaming of "incels", while I think it has raised to 50% of 18-30 year old men have not had sex in the past year and most of those are virgins. Due to dating apps encouraging the above situation. 

I have realised as the UK Online Safety act has come in that I was watching 'intimate images' more than I thought. I tried a few other things but after that I have stopped... fapping. It has been a remarkable change for me. There are a few other things influencing this. But it is a pretty good feeling to have a lot of my energy lower in my body. 

It seems to me much of the time that a more angry attitude kind of helps in this world. For instance, I post a lot on X, even though I get a like about once a month or so. But when the energy is lower in my body I feel more anger at that and I do not want to waste my energy on X. A similar thing with a lot of women walking about. It is better to have a generally negative emotion towards attractive girls, whom I don't have any option with, and who would likely go out of their way to bully me if they felt the need; than it is to have a light hearted positive and hopeful attitude that I might be able to get with one of them. 

It has been quite a change. The conversation around forgiveness without contrition and spiritual bypassing kinds of practices, which I took in when I was "spiritually ambitious" when I was younger, has as one of it's assumed truths that people are not entitled to their own emotions that are deemed by the collective (i.e. women) as 'negative'. This feels like such a violation in a sense. Feeling entitled to my own emotions such as they are feels like a true blessing and I truly hope I am able to maintain this change (Previously I have met resistance at 11-18 days and I am on day 4, but who knows if I can be successful when intimate images are banned!)