I wanted to do a kind of run down of my understanding of the balancing process given in the Law of One. Understanding (mind), acceptance (body) and forgiveness (spirit).
I am a kind of angry resentful person. And I do not disagree with that part of myself. Of that way that I have become. Following the Law of One. A person experiences "catalyst". Which is that stuff out in the world that we use to change ourselves. So, we see in the world there is something to strive for and we strive for it. Changing ourselves in many ways, including an increase of discipline.
That is an example of positive catalyst. It could be something more negative. Like we get bullied or something. Each catalyst can give us more positive or negative tendencies and specific weight is given, in the archetypal system. For when we respond to positive catalyst with negative tendencies and vica versa.
I have started reading Nietzsche recently and I am very happy doing so. It feels incredibly profound. Feels like it is just 'something else'. I wanted to get his work for an understanding of some basic concepts of his that I have thought over. But, I feel now I have the book that it is gaining entry into another thing completely.
One of the things he says, not even in the text yet, it is excerpted in the introduction. That he dislikes the binary between true - false, good - evil etc. He says that it is very possible that something in between these poles will be life affirming and good. This reminds me of something I have recently begun to feel and understand. I have realised that seeking truth 'in every area', is a bit too much of an energy drain. It came to me as I was thinking over these mental health issues that people have. Autism etc. I had originally believed that a lot of these people were kind of making it up to cover for hedonism and the negative psychological effects of a bad conscience. This was partly from Stefan Molyneux. I do not recall if he said this precisely. But I think I got the idea from listening to him.
Eventually though I realised, when confronted with people that strongly believe the mental health reasoning, and various other things I have experienced. I realised it doesn't really help me to think of it like this. Whatever the ultimate truth of these peoples issues are. It is easier for me to just accept what they say. It doesn't effect me. I am not going to feel sympathy for their mental health issues or make a whole load of concessions I wouldn't otherwise make. But the additional energy to attempt to prove to myself either that these are legitimate, or that they are spiritual problems. Is not something worth my time; and life will eventually sort that kind of stuff out anyway. As society changes and people improve and add more light to situations like this.
The reason I took the circuitous route to explain that last paragraph. The idea of accepting a maybe lie, or accepting 'confusion' as a kind of easy way out sometimes. Is that it is directly relevant to my spiritual movement forward I believe. I will have to explain something else first then come back to this.
My current catalyst.
I have travelled a very strange route in this life. As I have explained here before. I have an illness, a physical illness. Which is kind of subtle and invisible. And causes massive amounts of stress and even schizophrenia through effecting brain chemistry. There has been better medical technology recently. Which means for the first time in my life I am kind of clear headed and normal. I can carry a conversation without going off into some weird, highly alienating, thing.
Nevertheless, my catalyst. I.e. the information I have received from the world. Is a certain way. I have been socially excluded from every single social group I have ever been a part of. I had a group of male friends for a while in school. Before the medical situation really progressed. I was a bit odd and overly stressed then. But it started to grow really bad from my mid twenties on.
I worked in a supermarket as my first real job. I was completely socially excluded from everyone in the entire, very large, supermarket. They arranged entire outings strategically ostracising me. I then went to Uni. Where I neither got on nor didn't get on with anyone there. I then volunteered in a Buddhist cafe. I then worked in a fast food place, and office for two years, back to fast food, this time with people that could barely speak English, because the bullying at the office was so intense, then I worked in a call centre.
At each one of these. Every single one. I was socially ostracised. The call centre actually this was not the case technically. They were very big on arranging outings after work for everyone. But I was kept in a team where the only thing I could do was work because the work load was heavier. Even though everyone else managed to socialise in that team (although no one was in the team more than six months while I was permanently there!) I just worked. But outside that. I was socially ostracised everywhere I went. Like, people going for entire social events deliberately excluding me and only me.
This was NOT the extent of the social ostracism. Even in other things in my personal life I have also been ostracised.
Like I said, and I am also bringing this point out for a later point. While there may be very good reasons for this. I could have said or done things weird that got me socially ostracised at these places. My experience is that I have been socially ostracised. That is the catalyst that I have had. Now my emotional reactions to the world are that of a person that has been socially ostracised constantly.
A natural dynamic.
In the world I notice a pattern. If I am in contact with someone. I try and put my best foot forward. My best foot is that I have found value in the kind of things I blog about. The constant pains of the social ostracism has driven me more strongly into spirituality. The amount of catalyst to get me to pray everyday, or at least intend to. Was not small.
Now, I think I have adapted so well to these things that I am unrecogniseable to the original person I was who wanted to 'fit in'. I recall in a moment where I had felt socially ostracised in my personal life. An additional example. A friend of mine was meeting up with another friend and I was not only feeling socially ostracised but was starting to go into a kind of psychosis. It is something that was a part of my schizophrenic break in 2014. The pains of all this started to get me that badly. (I have mapped out this single thing being responsible for a lot of my psychosis).
But as I was starting to feel this. Actively getting weird with people. I stared at my human design chart. Something I had separated from a little. And it sorted itself out. I connected to something of myself that is higher, and I was suddenly unbothered with the social event I had been very deliberately not invited to. (The person involved here actually tried to involve me in the future and suffered socially for this in a big way. At least in my understanding).
But it goes even further than this. Now that I am interested in the subjects I am interested in. Now that I have started to carve out a life where I am, basically happy largely on my own, and without these larger social groups. In essence, with enough prayer and meditation, reading the Law of One, now philosophy and the gym. I have become, somewhat immune, it feels to me. Either that or the emotion is suppressed. I do not feel bad if I am not invited and I also, do not want to be invited. The smallest incling of disrespect and I am happy to go home, watch Star Trek, and have an early night. I also have the general tendency to avoid the social situation in the first place. To not want to be invited.
Obviously this does not seem healthy. It is hard to even want to spend time with women (it is anyone really, but I use women as an example because they are seen as desireable, they are important for my "biological need to reproduce"). So I must have destroyed a part of myself in some manner. But I cannot make myself want what I don't want. I cannot afford therapy either.
Everytime someone does try to interact with me, or I with them. In some manner. I kind of do my best. I provide what I think is a good addition to the conversation. But often, this is discouraged or ignored. If someone talks about xyz and I think Law of One type stuff, or Stefan Molyneux type stuff is useful or relevant. I will talk about it. The person will show a bit of interest. Then not be interested somehow. To forget about it. I might also make jokes.
Eventually with enough ignoring me from the other person. I have to withdraw. This is obvious. You make a joke and someone takes more than 24 hours to respond. Frequently. Then obviously it is logical to withdraw. Without a casual conversation going over Whatsapp, for example. I cannot then casually say does someone want to meet up? I might even doubt myself and say, perhaps I should not be talking about philosophy with people? But, it is in my human design. Personality Mercury 56.2. Design Mercury 24.6. That is just me, what I am about. Sometimes the world/ people, give us feedback that we should change in some manner. But if what it wants us to change is a fixed attribute like that. There is not much we can do.
The solutions.
I have noticed one of the biggest changes in my psychology recently. I think this is due to working out in the gym a good deal. Since I have been working out at the gym. There is just something about all this I have begun to accept.
For years, especially before I went to the two year office job. I just thought that things were going badly from bad luck. The people in the supermarket were an exception etc. I thought it was super strange I had not been out in a mixed gender group my whole life. Not gone out for a drink with say, three women and three men (including me). That because it was so strange that that hadn't happened. It was liable to happen.
For a while I went through various crazinesses. But I always kind of desired that. Kind of desire that socialising or something in that entire area. But recently, since the gym, all of a sudden I do NOT desire that. I do not look around when walking in town hoping I can strike up a conversation with some chick. It feels like a deep and fundamental acceptance that that has not happened, and it probably isn't going to happen now. And I'm not sure I even want it to happen!
Since the gym though. I have gone from kind of desiring that and still thinking about it. To not thinking about it at all. Just love of gym. Nothing else.
During the period Mid - late June to Mid - late July where I temporarily went off Communion. I did feel far more emotionally raw. I made this song:
I have the right to resent you. I have the right to feel,
The sun reveals everything, every little piece of you.
And you are love, maybe poison love,
And I am need, that is true.
I have not been able to make music for a long time and I do not know why. This song was honest about that angry resentment I feel. Which, it exists for a reason and I don't see a problem with it. Like the song says, I do have the right to my emotions and when I was bullied at various workplaces. It was always women doing it. Every single time.
Since I have gone back onto Communion though. These kinds of words are not coming. I wonder if it is because part of me wants to make a song with higher, more positive or more complex lyrics? Something meaningful in a different way?
But to be honest. I don't really know the reason for it. When I went off Communion. I could make a song showing how I really feel. When I am on it. No song is made up. I'm just into playing scales and such.
Perhaps it is a refinement to make a better song later? One with more of the scales that I am practicing?